‘It’s a numbers game’ is the most annoying answer to the question of how to become successful in Network Marketing.

Ask as many people as possible in a day if they are interested in your business and a % of them will say yes.

There’s no doubt this is true.

Network Marketing is a $ 250 billion dollar worldwide business; so clearly, a lot of people say yes.

The problem is that, in their own experience, many people starting in Network Marketing find that not many people say yes, and even fewer seem to put in a lot of effort to make it into a success.

There are a few obvious reasons for that:

• Network Marketing is not a get-rich-quick scheme; it takes daily actions for a sustained period of time.
• ‘No’ is difficult to accept for a lot of people in the beginning; they take it personally and have an emotional response that prevents them from simply moving on to the next prospect.
• There is character building involved, which consists of daily discipline, endurance, working like an entrepreneur, dealing with opposition, and working on your mindset.

But the missing link almost nobody talks about:

It’s far more about energy and inner alignment than about trying to be a machine capable of playing ‘the numbers game’ without being influenced by many missed marks and draining conversations.

Thoughts create your reality; by now, almost everybody knows that on one level or another – it’s no longer a mystery.

Whether you’re into the Law of Attraction, Quantum Physics, Positive Psychology, or even an empowering religion – all talk about the same thing: ‘The Kingdom of Heaven is Within’ (to quote an amazing teacher).

How does this relate to Network Marketing?

It’s quite simple: if you’re taking a decent amount of action (which sadly is still the main suggested way of becoming successful in Network marketing), but you’re not getting good results (which is so for many of people in Network Marketing) – the problem lies within.

That is good news, for if the problem were outside of you, there would be nothing you can do.

Luckily – it is all about you – if you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.

There are two main things to do:

• Untangle dysfunctional energetic blocks that hold your desired outcomes at bay.
• Create supporting belief patterns that will lead you to inspired action and desired results.

The crux here is that you might have dysfunctional energetic blocks in other parts of your life, that lower your baseline (your default emotional state/level of vibration), so that no matter how positively you focus on desired outcomes and how many actions you take – the desired reality does not manifest.

It becomes even more complicated when you have 2 baselines – one low and one high – with no middle ground.

Such was my situation, in medical terms, I was bipolar.

The cause of that lay in my childhood.

Due to various circumstances, Fear was the dominant state I lived in from pre-birth to 17 years old.

I was bullied, beaten, insulted and ridiculed on many occasions during this first period of my life, and at night, I was haunted by horrible images in my developing consciousness.

But there also was another side.

I had amazing grandparents where I felt safe, loved and free.
I had some wonderful friends in my hometown.
I was properly clothed, decently fed and lived in a beautiful house.
My mother highly valued education – so I studied well, got a teacher’s degree, and I successfully finished the academy as a pianist. I’m also a decent skier and I know how to ride a horse.
When darkness started to hit, later in my life, she was there to support me in any way she knew how to.

I inherited my father’s sensibility for beauty and music; he bought my first car and helped me build amazing houses.

Given these opposing realities, it makes sense my consciousness split itself in two, as sometimes my life was heaven, but many times it was hell.

At age 17, I met an amazing woman and my life turned around.
Due to my preference, we ended up becoming best friends, and we walked through life together for many years.

After high school, my years in college still account for some of the best years of my life – I made many friends and I felt both personally and intellectually appreciated. I graduated with ease.

So life began – finally.

I decided to close the curtain on past hurts and focus on my dream: becoming an entrepreneur.

Early on, I met people who inspired me to live the life of my dreams and I educated myself into every healthy way I could find to lead a happy and successful life.

I was able to create large profits at certain times, I lived in beautiful homes and I travelled the world.

But after every rise … I fell … deep.

The shadow of my past never really left me. However much I trained myself in positive focus, however great life looked from the outside, it remained.

It made me turn to behavior where I started to harm myself.

I remember one time, New Year’s 2012, I was sitting with my then-partner aboard a yacht in Darling Harbour, Sydney, watching the fireworks in a setting most people can only dream about and thinking … I want to die.

My waves of depression (and my unhealthy coping mechanisms) became increasingly worse, so I finally gave in and concluded that, for now, I was done. I just couldn’t muster up the energy anymore to make another leap, only to end up in hell again shortly after.

In this state I arrived with the first psychiatrist who actually understood what was wrong with me.

It was not me – it was what happened to me in my youth.

Those experiences had left such traumatic imprints (CPTSD) in my consciousness and my body – it had split my inner world up in two disconnected sides: one suicidal, one on top of the world. No middle ground. Inner peace was something unknown to me. I found myself either in my bed or on a stage; there was no proverbial park in the middle to just chill and be.

The next 10 years, I spent on healing the hurts of my past.

I understood that if I did not do that, I would have to give up on my dreams – and that simply was not an option for me.

I went through it and did the work, which oftentimes was horrible and painful. But I knew I had to do it; I owed it to myself, to the young man with great dreams.

Network Marketing is the business I fell in love with at age 25, and I am eternally grateful, that has never changed.

It faithfully remained my beacon of hope during every walk through the Shadow of Death.

I knew that if I could heal from the effects of abuse and victimization, I would be free to create.

Early-years trauma instills very deep-rooted beliefs that you’re unwanted, that you’re not worthy of love or even to be heard, let alone deserve success.

Dealing with the hurts of my past and bringing them to a place of acceptance, establishing a peaceful middle ground, and from there gradually building on what was always going to be my destiny, proved to be the magical cocktail.

So, in my view, it is not that Network Marketing (or any other entrepreneurial endeavor) just ‘happens to have’ a low success rate.

Rather, it is that most people carry internal blockages they need to sort out in order for them to take inspired action and for the flow of the Universe to bring them their desired reality.

Network Marketing is a great learning school for that, as the two most important things for manifestation are taught:

• Don’t give attention to negativity – haters are gonna hate …
• Focus on your goals and how you could get there

The essential part in ‘getting there’, however, is not so much an external path as it is an internal one. You have to establish serenity and sovereignty in yourSelf, align your chakras, and create a laser focus on your hopes and dreams.

Victim consciousness can never create greatness.

If you are blaming – you are not allowing.
If you are criticizing – you are not allowing.
If you carry guilt – you render yourself powerless.

If you believe it will not work for you – you will be proven right.

If you believe you need external circumstances to change in order for you to feel good (which is the doorway to manifestation), you will never get there.

This is an attraction-based Universe.

Poverty creates poverty.
Wealth creates wealth.

And all of that is an inside job.

When looking at reality, that seems a harsh truth, I agree.
As empathic beings, our hearts cry when we see the effects of disempowered people.

The only power we have however, lies inside ourselves.

If we do not take care of ourselves, we have nothing to give.

Rendering yourself poor and powerless will never make another rich and empowered.

Every soul on this magnificent Earth needs to learn that.

And the best way to teach that to others:

Do it yourself and lead by example so that, in the end, you do have the means and the power to help others in need.
(Read “My Big Why” here)

To your success,

Dietrich Sven Corthouts
Elegant Network Marketing